Remember how we all thought it takes TWO to Tango? It seems not everyone agrees!
What happens when one partner in a relationship has had enough and is ready to give up and walk away? Most experts would argue both people in the relationship need to get together and figure out how to make it work, or basically, that’s, that! A new book, IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO (Touchstone) by Winifred M. Reilly, MA, MFT, argues, not so fast, take a step back. Perhaps it takes only one to tango!
Unlike most self-help books about marriage, IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO uses Reilly’s personal story about trying to keep her own once troubled marriage from coming apart. She didn’t want a divorce, and waiting for her hubby to leap up and embrace her ideas wasn’t working out any better. So she decided to rescue her marriage by herself, even though, at the outset, she had no idea what she was in for.
Here are just a couple of tips Reilly offers:
- Focus on your own behaviors.
- Take a firm stand for what matters.
- Take a look at the BIG picture.
- Try to respond, rather than being reactive.
- Dig in, and use all of your strength, stamina … and love!
Reilly’s humorous and optimistic guide offers psychological theories as well as her own personal journey. Don’t give up!
Winifred M. Reilly is a marriage and family therapist, with a private practice in Berkeley, CA. She has been committed to helping couples and individuals build strong, loving relationships for more than 35 years. Winifred is the author of the relationship advice blog Speaking of Marriage, and her work has appeared in The Good Men Project, xoJane, and The Huffington Post.
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Thanks to TLC Book Tours and Touchstone books, we have one copy of IT TAKES ONE TO TANGO. Just tell us what keep your marriage and/or relationship hot with your partner. Be as explicit as you want. We’ll announce a winner next week.
Have a wonderful week. I couldn’t finish writing this without sharing something. Whenever I hear something about the Tango, I can’t help but picture in my mind, Al Pacino doing the tango in the film, SCENT OF A WOMAN. “Whoo-ah. Hah!”
Have a wonderful week.